The ego uses a variety of predictable patterns because the basis of its thought system is judgment whose origin is due to sin, fear and guilt. Judgment is definitely one or the other. As you perceive a brother through judgment, you will project and judge on that brother and soon you perceive the results back. Once those results are perceived, you will use perception repeatedly to project and judge them a lot more.
Unfortunately, this uses both sides of the ego wrong mind and compounds the initial error until the truth is well hidden. Handing over judgments for correction (forgiveness) stops the cycle.
Holy Relationships:
The ego uses special love and hate relationships, and also specialness (being different), to help keep the illusion of separation going. Use of these types of relationships as cause, can be the ego mind as cause; and the effect is to continue separation between brothers because they are based on the original separation. Remember cause and effect: The mind you choose from, as cause, can lead to the corresponding consequences (effect).
This is simply not about you needing to be alone or avoid relationships in life. It is, however, all about the way you enter and utilize them within the mind.
The choice that may set you free is to elect to have your relationships be Holy Relationships. You must be the person practicing forgiveness in every of your relationships, even if you are the only one. It is “special” and soon you transform it “Holy.” To see another as a brother, a prerequisite to going home, is True Perception which shines a light of truth you both. The ego cannot prevail against Oneness since it is not real.
Form and Content:
A TRAINING COURSE in Miracles (ACIM) is very clear that form does not matter. There is nothing in ACIM about behavior and when you judge a brother on his or her behavior, that is the same side of the ego mind. They may be acting from the ego “wrong” mind; but you are judging from the ego “right” mind. To the ego, one judgment is the same as any other.
What the Course says is that content matters. Content is the mind. ACIM concerns itself with you knowing that you can choose the Holy Spirit Right Mind as your internal Teacher thereby producing a different cause and effect.
Everything you or another does in form (behavior) will not matter. a course in miracles However listed below are two questions to consider:
When I acted, did I act from the Holy Spirit Right Mind? (Content)
Is my interpretation of my buddy from the Holy Spirit Right Mind? (Content)
You won’t have peace if you don’t can answer “yes” to both. Choose again if you want to. It is never too late.
There is Only One of Us:
When you judge a brother, you’re utilizing the ego mind as cause for that judgment to become a real effect. For this reason we emphasize that everything you see in another has to be forgiven in yourself first. Here’s why: (1) You cannot see fault (judgment) in another unless you chose from that portion of the split mind to begin with; (2) You cannot judge what you don’t already believe to be true since it is in line with the mind you chose from; and (3) Judgment about another is a statement of the guilt retained in your mind from the original separation because you opting for to utilize the ego mind. It really is where you are still keeping fear and guilt instead of choosing correction (forgiveness) for the reality.
Absolutely anyone who turns up and provides you with to be able to heal your mind is a gift you may use. Turn it into a Holy Relationship. This is one way you will return your own mind to God, and how others eventually see it for themselves. Hold the light of forgiveness which gives all minds a chance to create a different choice. Judge and they run and hide further into darkness and error.
A Call for Love:
Attack is a conscious mind behavior based on projection, judgment and perception. The ego’s point would be to protect separate identity and for that reason, all attack is really a call for love, or forgiveness, which is joining. The more determined you are to know the truth about yourself and a brother, the more you’ll choose against the ego’s attacks and only correction (forgiveness) from the proper Mind.
Responding with love often means many things and sometimes, it can even mean no response. Other times, you may want a boundary or to take some action. To respond with love, you absolutely should be practicing forgiveness and utilizing the Right Mind to turn over-all attack and judgment. The Holy Spirit will provide you with a solution in the event that you completely turn to that Right Mind for help. “Completely” is the key word.
Eventually you see no attack (error) occurred and that is to know the truth about you as well as your brother. There is absolutely no defense necessary (“defenselessness” on the Split Mind diagram). Once you share your willingness never to see error, you have shared what you need to help keep and learn on your own. What you share you discover you have.
Sharing:
Sharing means to allow yourself to give to another what you want them to possess. Your only reason behind doing this is basically because it is what you would like to have on your own. You are teaching them what you want to be yours. Teaching is instruction of ideas and principles. Do this and you will find you own it because you’ve literally said, “Give back to me what I’ve taught you.”
